Sunday, July 8, 2012

Don't Be a Bridezilla!!


Keeping Composure and avoiding the "Bridezilla" Moment

Take the Wedding Channel's Quiz to Find Out if You're a Bridezilla

This whole topic just cracks me up, and I laugh every time I get asked  if I've ever run into, or have had to deal with a "Bridezilla," and if you are previous client of mine then you know that I actually include a "Bridezilla Clause" in my contract! ;-) I have been lucky in that all of my clients have been absolute dolls, but the truth of the matter is, while I haven't had anyone turn into a Bridezilla on me, nor have I had to implement that clause, I think almost every bride has a "I'm Going to Kill You!" moment at some point during the wedding planning process. 

Weddings have become a huge and elaborate project that takes up a lot of time to plan, and have become more and more expensive with each new generation.  With that said, a lot of emotions are thrown into the mix, and you basically end up with a recipe for a potential disastrous meltdown.

However, keep in mind that: HELLO! YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED! And you are allowed to care about the details that go into planning it! But, there is a fine line between feeling empowered to make decisions and being bossy or just down-right unpleasant to be around! There seems to be a lot of stress and rules that brides feel they need to follow, and you are doing something that is next to impossible: trying to make everyone happy. You can have opinions, and make decisions for people, and even get angry and stressed out once in awhile! It's your wedding! In the end, you will want to do what will make you and your hubby-to-be happy; not what your grandmother told you was considered "traditional" or what your maid-of-honor did, or didn't do for that matter, at her wedding. You're not going to be able to make everyone happy, and that's fine!

While you may be bound to have that "I'm Going to Kill You" moment, the benefit of being a bride is you get to also say, "I can walk away right now. This is not my problem. Just getting married right .... no big deal."  For a few hours of your life, you need to protect your emotions and enjoy the moment as it happens. If something goes wrong, 1) You will probably be the only one who notices, and 2) Someone else will take care of it. If other people around you are stressed out or are triggering your stress buttons, just walk away. Again, it's only a few hours of your life, so you want to enjoy it! Take this into consideration: If it bothers you the next day, then address it then. If it doesn't, then it wasn't a big deal after all!

TAKE THE BRIDEZILLA QUIZ! Find out if you're a "Bridezilla." Or if you're already married, test yourself to see if you fell into any of the Bridezilla categories during your wedding planning/day.